Origianlly Published with theCityMoms 2023
Edited and Updated 4/15/2025
There are seasons in life when it feels impossible to ignite that spark with your partner. Between work, raising kids, and managing daily responsibilities, by the time the end of the night rolls around, it might feel like there isn't enough energy left to nurture your relationship. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone! Reconnecting and dating in long-term relationships might seem challenging, but we’re here to show you how to keep the romance alive and strengthen your bond with your partner, no matter how busy life gets.
Communicate Your “Yes” for Better Connection
When you finally get a date night, it can feel like a big decision to choose what to do. Instead of getting stuck in the cycle of “What do you want to do?”, be proactive and communicate your “yes.” Clear communication helps set expectations and brings clarity to your relationship. Whether you want to enjoy a fancy dinner, go bowling with a cold beer in hand, or hike a new trail, sharing what excites you can deepen your connection. Talking about your preferences ahead of time helps both of you align your expectations and build excitement for your time together.
Date Ideas for Every Relationship and Different Stages
Dating your partner doesn't have to be a one-size-fits-all experience. In fact, dates can come in all shapes and sizes! We categorize dates into two types: short-term dates and long-term dates.
- Short-term dates are spontaneous, simple, and don’t require much planning. For example, after the kids go to bed, you could make some homemade popcorn (extra butter, of course!), snuggle up, and binge-watch your favorite shows. Or, break out a fun board game with a homemade cocktail. These simple yet meaningful moments of connection can go a long way in strengthening your bond.
- Long-term dates require more planning and commitment, but they can also be incredibly rewarding. Whether it's planning a weekend getaway or signing up for an art class together, long-term dates require patience and shared effort. Discuss what you both want to experience and find time to plan it out together.
Don't Fear the "Flop" – Embrace Imperfection
Not every date will be perfect, and that’s okay! Whether things go as planned or take an unexpected turn, the key is to embrace it with humor and gratitude. Even when things don’t go well, show appreciation for each other. After all, the goal is to strengthen your emotional connection. Sometimes, dates might be Instagram-worthy, while other times they belong on a blooper reel. But no matter what happens, laughter and a sense of humor can keep your relationship strong and resilient.
Review Your Date with Curiosity
One of the benefits of being in a long-term relationship is the opportunity to reflect on your experiences together. After your date, discuss what worked and what didn’t, especially if you tried something new. A conversation like, “I loved cuddling in that booth, but next time let’s find a place with a more relaxed vibe” can help you both grow together. Asking questions like, “What could we try next time?” will spark excitement for future dates. Open communication fosters a deeper connection and builds trust over time.
Build a Stronger Relationship with Playful Communication
Reaching out to your partner and communicating openly may feel like a bold move—but trust us, the benefits are worth it! Playful communication, increased trust, and shared intimacy will reignite the spark and build emotional intimacy in your relationship.
Let us know in the comments: What are you excited to try to reconnect with your partner and reignite that spark?